Today, we'll cover the 3 toxic myths about homeschooling that all beginners MUST break away from in order to achieve sustainable homeschooling.
Getting your mindset right is the #1 thing you have to conquer if you want to succeed in homeschooling. As the popular saying goes, "You are your worst enemy and best asset" ;-)
From serving many families through coaching calls, from all walks of life over the last couple of years, I can tell you that the best and most successful families are those with the right mindset and attitude, who have the right beliefs about homeschooling.
It's myth-busters time, my friend! Time to re-align your perspectives and make things right :)
Myth #1: "In order for my kids to learn, I have to do all the teaching.”
It’s actually the opposite. Teachers today constantly ask themselves, Why is this happening? Why isn’t our instruction transferring?
Even seeing the dismal results of public school, homeschooling parents then try to replicate the formula at home, resulting in either burnout or also poor results.
The truth is life long study habits that will carry out in adulthood, must be developed from an early age. The student must learn that there is no one there to hold their hand or spoon-feed them the information. The shortest journey for knowledge is from the pages of a book straight to the student. Anything getting in the middle of that process is only a hindrance.
Self-teaching is the only form of learning that provides genuine, well-earned confidence in their ability to do hard things.
Myth #2: "You need to be focused on goals"
This is SO not true.
The key that will guide you through any pang of doubt, of comparison, during a bad day will be YOUR VISION.
A goal, while good, can lead you away from your vision. For example, if you have a goal that your child finishes Saxon 5/4 by the end of the year and they are going at a slower pace. In order to achieve that goal will you help them when they get stuck? Will you park them in front of “Nicole the Math Lady” videos or switch to an entirely different math program because it got too hard?
If your vision was an independent, self-confident student with a thorough grasp of math, then this outcome to achieve a goal has derailed it.
If at every action you pause and ask yourself, is this aligned with my vision or not? Then the short term goals will easily sort themselves out. You will simply rest in the formula, math first, 6 days a week, year-round, 5% error rate before moving on and the child will set the pace. All you can do is nurture the soil for the right environment for a plant to bloom but you cannot yell for a plan to grow faster.
To be honest, I don’t understand why parents get so worked up about having to learn math at the same time with their children in order to teach them/help them. Why? My oldest daughter who hasn’t asked me for help in years showed me a problem she just couldn’t figure out. It was all greek to me, I had no idea as she is on a level that has already surpassed me. She knew she just had to buckle down and find the answer within her textbook, and she did! She gained self-confidence that she could do it on her own, and I saved myself the grief of trying to “save” her from math frustration. To quote one of our favorite family series, “This is the way.”
Myth #3: Focusing on Motivation
I can totally understand why someone would believe in this as I’ve been there myself, but I have seen time and again that focusing on constantly motivating the student is an exhausting run on a hamster wheel.
Discipline and motivation while good things are also things that let’s face it...at times fail. Nobody is perfect, you, me, our kids included. We all have days where we don’t want to do what we know must be done.
So what do you focus on instead? THE PATH OF LEAST RESISTANCE. Make the thing you want to happen the easiest thing to happen. Take a look around, every item in your room, in your house, is it helping or hindering your vision?
Approaching your school area, home, with this principle in mind, will help your students get on with it when they don’t “feel” like doing school.
Why is believing in these 3 myths problematic?
Because believing in these 3 myths will stop you from taking the right action. Your confidence gets affected, you don't seek guidance, and subsequently, you don't transform your homeschooling as a result. The worst end result is burnout, quitting, and hurting your most precious relationships under our roof, whether that be not being the best version of yourself for your spouse, or becoming a mommy dearest with your kids.
As someone who does homeschool coaching, I have seen breakthrough after breakthrough and I know that it is not difficult to achieve a self-teaching, sustainable homeschooling formula, people just don't have the right guidance to succeed when it comes to homeschooling.
Many people search for curriculum information online fruitlessly, and when that doesn't work, they give up. I don’t want you to give up because I know you can do this!
How else will there be countless people who have achieved what they want to achieve if it was so hard? Are they all geniuses? No... they did it by following a proven formula that works and through pure hard work!
So take heart. You can do this! Don't for a second doubt yourself.
That's all I have for today! We are recording new episodes for the Homeschooling Made Easy Podcast. If you have any questions you would like to submit, just hit reply back to this email with them :)
See you next week, friend.Till then, take care :)
P.S Here is a webinar where I go over these myths and solutions in detail. That course that I mentioned is already available after refining it through the beta program. I am so excited to share it with you covering mindset, the Robinson Curriculum in detail and troubleshooting all the issues that I frequently hear during coaching calls. You can access it for just $10 a month through my membership site. https://www.sustainablehomeschooling.com/course
I will be LIVE tomorrow there for our monthly live Coffee Chat. I hope to see you there!